I am reading this book called Safe People by Henry Cloud & John Townsend. In one of the chapters he talks about how people who feel they are entitled to trust actually are unsafe people.
He also started talking about how we need to focus on the relationships that are built over time instead of the ones that happen really fast.
It really got me thinking about how we all might feel like we are trustworthy people, and we may feel like people should trust us right away. In this we are feeling entitled to having someone trust us. I guess I never realized I did this until I read this book.
Not only did I want these really great relationships where people trusted me, and I trusted them, I wanted that deeper connection to just happen right away!
But with that process I found myself in relationships where I was getting hurt a lot, and people were getting hurt by me. I think we all want those close relationships, but when we rush into relationships then we are acting on a sense of entitlement instead of building strong, and long lasting relationships.