This week’s writer Wednesday is showing up late, and I am so sorry. In my house school has been done for my three children since last week. I have a daughter who is graduating high school and two 8th graders in my home every day now.
Honestly, I don’t know why no one ever told me that parenting a tween, teen, and young adult all at the same time is a lot more exhausting than when they were a baby, toddler, and grade schooler. Since it’s summer break, and they are almost grown, I find myself spending the day reminding them that we need to take care of responsibilities, too, and not just lounge around the pool all day, or go shopping and hang out with our friends everyday just because it’s summer. They have errands to run now, too, and I guess I need to find a way to incorporate that into my everyday living.
I also plan on taking summer college courses; and with college those summer course are basically 16-week classes stuffed into an 8-week time frame. I’m really praying I can get through this without failing a class, or two!
So, in our house even though it’s summer I plan to keep some sort of routine going on because if I don’t then I won’t ever get any writing done, or this house will turn into a huge mess! As my kids were growing up I tried to make my days as structured as possible, and I focused a lot on the failures instead of the success of the days or the week. But as they get older I’m realizing that a structured life requires flexibility and paying extra attention to what works.
As of right now I am really working on doing that in regards to my personal blog, and I plan on changing what I write about on a regular basis. But I’m also focusing on structure and routine, which is why I am writing the writer Wednesday at the end of the day rather than skipping it altogether.
As a family we have goals; and I have personal goals that include writing goals. The older I get I am also realizing the importance of being a creator of the life that you want. No matter what happens life will always go on, and the world will continue to orbit the sun; and God will still be God and we will still be human. Life is going to keep on going whether we find the structure, discipline, and the determination to stick to our goals or to achieve the dreams we have set forth, or not.
For me, the best way to do this is to maintain structure through all seasons of life so that I can create a space in order to do what I love which includes writing.
A few things I’ve realized about this process of finding structure is that:
- I need to declutter. It’s so difficult to find structure when you are trying to manage and maintain several different things your life. When we declutter we create space in our time to do what we love and to achieve our goals.
- I need to celebrate the successes. Instead of focusing on what I didn’t achieve on my to-do list I need to focus on what I did achieve. For example, since my kids have been out of school we have eaten dinner at home three nights in a row and that is helping me to achieve a goal that is very important to me. Celebrating this success has helped to put this way of life into perspective.
- I need to pray a lot, and stop worrying. This has been a lesson that has taken a very long time in my life to learn. I remember last summer lighting struck our house, and praise God nothing was damaged outside of some outlets. But it was a moment that reminded me how vulnerable I am in this life. I remember in that season very specifically worrying about a lot of things outside the home harming us but never really considering that my safe place, my home, could also be affected in a negative way. I remember going to bed that night thinking about how thankful I was for my bed and I couldn’t even imagine what it would have been like if the house had caught on fire. It made me realize that worrying doesn’t always help me move forward, and sometimes it just holds me back; but even in worrying what bad events can I truly prevent from happening? In this process of establishing structure I need to remember to do my best and pray about the rest.
Writing is so important, and I hope that you value this and the importance of structure and space to create your blogging masterpieces!
How do you establish structure and create space to write? Oh, and remember to link up your blog post and books at the end of this post!
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